Low self-esteem, low self-worth, desire for power, perceived threats, unresolved past traumas, mental and psychological issues and so many other "titles" are direct reasons for a bully to act they way he/she does. A bully is someone who only appears to be strong and dominant on the outside, but in reality the only thing that they can control is anything but themselves. They suffer from the lack of self knowledge and the lack of self-worth as well. Bullying is their only way out to feel worthy and able.
Low self-value:
Deep inside, they think they are not valuable and without any talent. Their sense of self-worth is very weak. They gain power from the reaction of their victims; when they are afraid to face them or to speak up. Most people around bullies pretend that they like them to avoid being bullied by them, or because they have similar psychological issues.
Low self-esteem:
Low self-esteem can also push them to feel "in charge" and able to "control" anything or anyone - except themselves. This is usually because they have had tumultuous upbringing that imposed upon them powerful problems beyond their control. As a means of coping, they intend to make up for this elsewhere by "imposing" their abusive presence on others.
Low self-esteem usually starts at a very young age. Bullies have suffered difficult upbringing problems and abusive parents who are physically or psychologically aggressive. This creates a deeper sense of weakness and worthlessness.
Fear and anticipated threats:
As a result, bullies subconsciously feel that they always need to defend themselves against something or someone. Even worse, they could start attacking people as an act of self-defense. That is because they continuously see "threats" and "insults" everywhere around them. Feeling extremely weak and terribly shaken inside, they strive to prove the opposite by targeting weaker people to practice upon them similar forms of violence that they were exposed to and still suffer from.
In a nutshell:
So, basically, bullies are in dire need for professional psychological help and medical support to be able to overcome their childhood traumas that terribly affected their psyche at a young age. For a bully, the process of mentally and psychologically recovering normally takes a long time; because this attitude has been formed along the early years of childhood and adolescence. Undoubtedly, it's worth the time and effort not only for the bully to lead a better life of inner-peace, it's also important because such psychological problems do massively affect their children without even intending to.
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