> The Do-Noting-ism, what is it?
It is a state of being in which one is generally stagnate and discouraged; not motivated to take any action, feeling burdened and utterly hopeless and helpless. This state is strongly tied to one's blurred vision of one's own reality and truth, lack of self-understanding, and to seeing reality in a way that it actually is not.
Please note:
In this series of posts, this term is not meant to refer to the deliberate decision of doing nothing to pause and recharge your batteries. It rather discusses the undesirable and "uncontrollable" (self-)imposed feeling of "I want to stick where I am and not to take a step forward, because 'I can not', 'I do not qualify' or because 'I will not succeed'."
> The Mind-Sets of the State of Do-Nothing-ism
1) Hope-less-ness
This is when you feel depressed, "frozen in the pain of the current moment" forgetting your pleasant past of successes and achievements, and losing hope in the possibility of feeling better in the future.
In other words, when you are in this state of being, you forget about your abilities, potentials, what you can do to help yourself and sink into the feelings of being "less" and "unqualified". You form an unfair and unrealistic idea about your own reality.
>> Quick solution?
Reflect on your true qualities, qualifications, and skills. Remember your best situations. Know that even if your mind is cluttered and overwhelmed with pain and keeps telling you that you are in a hopeless situation, in reality no situation is completely hopeless. Pause, take your time, and review.
2) Help-less-ness
Happens when you feel a deep sense of powerlessness toward your current situation; that your situation is caused by something that falls beyond your control: fate, hormone cycles, dietary factors, luck, other people's evaluations/thoughts of you.
Sometimes the situation seems too dark to understand because you are too much busy searching for a cause (to excuse or to blame) rather than trying to analyze the situation or see it for what it really is and so find a satisfying solution.
>> Quick solution?
I'd suggest that you treat yourself like you would treat a dear friend coming to you in a state of confusion and despair. You will discover that you can find thousands of solutions and that you are actually helpful.
3) Overwhelming yourself
This happens in three ways:
a) When you magnify your task to the degree that it seems impossible to tackle, handle, and finish
b) When you assume that you "must" do a task "all at once" instead of breaking it down into manageable units
c) When you distract yourself from a task at hand while obsessing about all the other present and future tasks that you haven't finished yet
In the three previous cases you feel helpless and discouraged to go on. You usually start having negative feelings about yourself and your abilities. You start discrediting yourself and discouraging it with negative self talk and a vicious circle starts.
>> Quick solution?
Divide your major tasks into small manageable sub-tasks. Live in your now, and focus on your current sub-tasks only. Start working bit by bit and enjoy viewing yourself making gradual satisfying progress.
4) Jumping to conclusions
It is an outcome of the negative self-talk I've just referred to. It happens when you are trapped in the negative mental habits of "I can't..." and "I would, but...". At this point, you feel that you do not have the power to take an effective action that can satisfy you.
>> Quick solution?
Remember that you can do anything. Remember not to believe all what your mind tells you. Pause and examine it. Question it for validity and truthfulness. You may keep listening to your mind telling you that you are "powerless", but when you start taking real action you discover that you are powerful, able and you can. This will definitely give you a lift and make you feel slightly better, and encouraged to proceed.
Sun. 12 Feb. 2017
To be continued...
It is a state of being in which one is generally stagnate and discouraged; not motivated to take any action, feeling burdened and utterly hopeless and helpless. This state is strongly tied to one's blurred vision of one's own reality and truth, lack of self-understanding, and to seeing reality in a way that it actually is not.
Please note:
In this series of posts, this term is not meant to refer to the deliberate decision of doing nothing to pause and recharge your batteries. It rather discusses the undesirable and "uncontrollable" (self-)imposed feeling of "I want to stick where I am and not to take a step forward, because 'I can not', 'I do not qualify' or because 'I will not succeed'."
> The Mind-Sets of the State of Do-Nothing-ism
1) Hope-less-ness
This is when you feel depressed, "frozen in the pain of the current moment" forgetting your pleasant past of successes and achievements, and losing hope in the possibility of feeling better in the future.
In other words, when you are in this state of being, you forget about your abilities, potentials, what you can do to help yourself and sink into the feelings of being "less" and "unqualified". You form an unfair and unrealistic idea about your own reality.
>> Quick solution?
Reflect on your true qualities, qualifications, and skills. Remember your best situations. Know that even if your mind is cluttered and overwhelmed with pain and keeps telling you that you are in a hopeless situation, in reality no situation is completely hopeless. Pause, take your time, and review.
2) Help-less-ness
Happens when you feel a deep sense of powerlessness toward your current situation; that your situation is caused by something that falls beyond your control: fate, hormone cycles, dietary factors, luck, other people's evaluations/thoughts of you.
Sometimes the situation seems too dark to understand because you are too much busy searching for a cause (to excuse or to blame) rather than trying to analyze the situation or see it for what it really is and so find a satisfying solution.
>> Quick solution?
I'd suggest that you treat yourself like you would treat a dear friend coming to you in a state of confusion and despair. You will discover that you can find thousands of solutions and that you are actually helpful.
3) Overwhelming yourself
This happens in three ways:
a) When you magnify your task to the degree that it seems impossible to tackle, handle, and finish
b) When you assume that you "must" do a task "all at once" instead of breaking it down into manageable units
c) When you distract yourself from a task at hand while obsessing about all the other present and future tasks that you haven't finished yet
In the three previous cases you feel helpless and discouraged to go on. You usually start having negative feelings about yourself and your abilities. You start discrediting yourself and discouraging it with negative self talk and a vicious circle starts.
>> Quick solution?
Divide your major tasks into small manageable sub-tasks. Live in your now, and focus on your current sub-tasks only. Start working bit by bit and enjoy viewing yourself making gradual satisfying progress.
4) Jumping to conclusions
It is an outcome of the negative self-talk I've just referred to. It happens when you are trapped in the negative mental habits of "I can't..." and "I would, but...". At this point, you feel that you do not have the power to take an effective action that can satisfy you.
>> Quick solution?
Remember that you can do anything. Remember not to believe all what your mind tells you. Pause and examine it. Question it for validity and truthfulness. You may keep listening to your mind telling you that you are "powerless", but when you start taking real action you discover that you are powerful, able and you can. This will definitely give you a lift and make you feel slightly better, and encouraged to proceed.
Sun. 12 Feb. 2017
To be continued...
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